Initially reported by DailyDot.com, a woman on TikTok embarked on a fascinating social experiment on Hinge, inspired by her male friend’s struggles to find love interests on dating apps. Her initiative offers valuable insights into the dynamics of online dating, showing how women often have more power and leverage on dating apps and, perhaps, in general.
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At first, the woman was skeptical about her male friend’s difficulties on dating apps. However, once she logged in using his credentials and experienced it firsthand by posing as him, she quickly realized the challenges men faced were indeed genuine.
This eye-opening experience clearly reveals hidden truths.
“So one of my guy friends gave me permission to make a Hinge account for him, because I was telling him how easy dating is with dating apps. And he was telling me that it’s incredibly difficult. And I was like, ‘Pete, you must be doing something wrong.’ And he gave me permission to create an account for him and just run the account,” she said in her ‘Day 3 of being a ‘boy’ on a dating app’ video.
“‘I’m starting to hate women.”
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“I’ve been a virtual boy for three days and I’ve never felt this bad about myself. I feel like a freaking loser trying to get these girls to like me. And! I’m starting to hate women. Because I’m like—when I say ‘I’ I mean Pete, because that’s the account I’m using. Pete’s about a six. But I’m so desperate, I’m liking the twos and the threes, and even they won’t like me back—Pete, [who] is a six.”
“So what level of delusion has entered women’s heads? Like, what is going on? It is so difficult dating as a boy. I hate it. I’m on day three of being a boy and I hate women and I’m more depressed than ever,” she ended her video.
Consider this: the viral video has already amassed over 6.2 million views, and the comment section is buzzing with people criticizing Jo for giving her friend such a low score. This overwhelming response clearly indicates that viewers are engaged and invested in this story, making it a compelling topic worth your attention.
Incidentally, on Day 9, Jo, via another video, shared screenshots of the messages she sent to the women she matched with, offering insight that Pete might not be entirely at fault in this situation.
Women seem to have so much more leverage – don’t they men?
And, yes, that broke, single woman with 6 kids by 5 men has a lot more power than we think. They can sleep with handsome, financially successful men at will and can get attention anytime they want it. Maybe it’s not “relationship” attention, but it’s attention nonetheless.
Heck, a lot of men would hook up with Godzilla if he was wearing a skirt.
Most of the women I’ve dated could simply stand on a street corner for a mere few minutes, and suddenly, as if by some magnetic force, men would emerge from nowhere to approach them. It’s like witnessing an enchanting phenomenon unfold right before my eyes!
After I refused her unrealistic demands, one ex even told me, “OK, I guess it’s time for me to explore my one million options.”
Women often receive a lot of attention from men, which can sometimes be misconstrued as a reflection of their worth. However, it’s important to recognize that men’s persistent pursuit is frequently driven by biological factors like surging testosterone as well as societal norms and expectations that say men should chase women.
So, women, Tom Brady whistles at you. Maybe he even sleeps with you. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’re anywhere near his level. As a result, you shouldn’t limit yourself to solely dating filthy rich celebrity athletes.
Let’s face it, in most cases, he was horny and thought you’d be an easy hook-up. Unless he jumps through hoops for you, rolls out the red carpet, and talks about being exclusive, you are not Gisele Bündchen. In fact, you probably weren’t the most desirable woman in the room that night. He hooked up with you because he thought the prettiest girl would require too much work.
Yes, an average-looking woman with no frills is also well capable of temporarily dating men well out of their league. The keyword is: Temporarily.
A man who rates as a 9.5 will eventually leave the “7” he’s currently dating to pursue someone on his level, another 9.5. This leaves the woman, who is a 7, searching for yet another 9.5 instead of finding someone who truly values her qualities—a fellow 7.
Problem: After dating several high-ranking partners, she has developed a skewed perception of reality, leading her to believe she’s a 9 or 10 herself. This belief fuels her ongoing unrealistic expectations. As a result, many men who are genuinely wonderful and would be well-suited for her—those who might be considered 7s, and 8s—find themselves being turned away by women they could match well with.
Unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be an answer to this issue. Perhaps men lower than a 9 need to think outside the box because the leverage factor isn’t on their side.
On the bright side, there are countless success stories with online dating that highlight its potential.
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